Saturday, October 24, 2015

Living it up in Beijing

My friends Anna and Eric recently journeyed by train from San Francisco to Portland and back. Their friend, a frequent train traveler, had amassed enough points on Amtrak to be able to treat them to bunks in a private cabin. On their return to San Francisco, Anna wrote an essay that she shared at the San Francisco Writers Workshop about a man they met at dinner on the train, who was curiously well-informed about all the rail, air, and highway networks in the country. Anna, who is completing an international spy thriller, suspected the man of being associated with the firm. She and Eric clearly felt like spies themselves, infiltrating the world of the eccentric first class train travelers and observing not only the landscape in the window of their cabin and the constellations in the nighttime sky but also their fellow humans and themselves in an unfamiliar setting.

Travel, by way it pegs us to assigned seats, highlights the disparities of wealth and privilege. It also allows us the occasional opportunity to cross over, to intrude and take note of the lives of others. I remember talking to an American woman once who'd been dreaming of making a pilgrimage to Israel, to walk the way of Christ. She could picture the route exactly and had her entire itinerary planned out, down to the places to stop for lunch. The thing that was holding her up? If she were to take a cross-Atlantic flight, she wanted to be comfortable, she said. She wanted to do it in style. She was saving up for a first class ticket.

Here in Beijing, Bowie and I are trespassing as business travelers. We're sharing Dave's room in a comfortable--very comfortable--business class hotel. Clean filtered air, a crib for Bowie, mini fridge, a coffee maker and an electric tea kettle, TVs in the room and in the bathroom over the tub (TV is supposed to be relaxing?), a desk with lots of electric plugs, accommodating various standards, for all of our computers and phones. There's a leg massage machine. The room is on the 23rd floor and when we open the automated blinds, we're entertained by the view of the endless stream of traffic down below and new construction projects.

Beijing construction in the smog

In the forty-eight hours since our arrival, we've had little opportunity and need to leave the hotel. Bowie's got a case of jet lag, which means short drowsy days and then complete alertness at two am. At that hour, we've been picnicking in the bathroom and taking long crawls down the hallways. Then, back to bed until breakfast. The breakfast buffet, a smorgasbord of Asian, American, and European dishes (think: kimchi and baked beans) is just the thing for a little man who's experimenting with solids. There's cucumber and bacon and noodles and buns and watermelon to munch on, or, well, to throw around, yogurt to dip your fists into.

Picnic at 2 am

Sometime after breakfast and before dinner, we did make it to an indoor playground at a shopping center across the street from the hotel. The playground is perfect for crawlers and beginning walkers: a large enclosed padded space with miniature houses and slides and little rocking dragons (why rock on a horse if you could rock on a dragon?). Bowie took to this playground right away--and instantly became the center of attention. The half-dozed moms, nannies, and grandmas (and one grandpa) instantly wanted their babies to say hi to the foreigner. They did, and Bowie did; hands met hands and faces and noses and mouths; there was a little laughter and a little crying and a little hair pulling. Then followed the photo shoot, where we all had to document this cultural exchange. Bowie climbed the slide, rocked on a dragon, hid behind a miniature house, and then, as soon as seemed appropriate without causing an international scandal, we said пока-пока, bye-bye to our new friends and took off. I have to admit to being more scared of friendly babies than of airports and airplanes and cold and traffic jams and bad air. Their mutual curiosity and inability to cover their faces when they cough makes them perfect conduits for germs. In his eleven months, Bowie's had what feels like more than his fair share of colds, and though the docs keep telling me I won't be able to protect him from having another, I do wish I could. I trample on his social life; we return to the hotel.

Friends forever

6 comments:

  1. Wow, Olga! My valued friend, reader, and literary adviser is thinking about my “international spy thriller” in Beijing – what a huge confidence booster! Love the first-class ticket to follow the path of the Christ… Thinking of you dealing calmly with a little fountain in the United toilet, arranging a 2 AM bathroom picnic and hall crawl, tactfully preventing germ concerns from causing an international incident… Not such a rookie parent these days!

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    1. Dear Anna, thank you for being such an attentive, thoughtful reader and friend. The way you read and describe the world is so inspiring!

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  2. Olga, I always find your insights fascinating and your creative perspective entertaining!

    I understand how you feel about our little boy. You must balance so many things. Socialization and health is just one of many trade-offs you will need to make.

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    1. Thanks for reading and commenting, Phil! I hear you.

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  3. Caroline, Paul and I did all kinds of business-fueled travel in her first 20 months or so-- remember this mix of tourism, jet lag and limitations very well. Can remember being in the Tate Portrait Gallery and not being able to get everywhere to see everything with (our too bulky American) stroller-- and how I thought, that's okay, I'll be back. This is the baby time. 17 years and three more kids later, I could use some of that patience--but reading this reminds me that giving yourself over to the baby time can be such a joyous thing.

    And don't beat yourself up over the germ limitation-- a little caution is not a bad thing. Laughing re the sticky kisses and hair pulling and so on, thought of Yeats mingled hands and mingled glances. xx

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    1. Hah, funny about the Tate Portrait Gallery. what did you want to see there, do you remember? It's one of those places that I wanted to enjoy far more than I actually did.

      yeah, i was very mindful of packing a lighter stroller on this trip.. and still it has its limitations :)

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